Five Questions to Minimize Your Possessions
I’ve been doing my best to be a minimalist for the last four years. Most people don’t know this about me, but they do notice the results. My friends have made comments ranging from how quick helping me move was to how does a librarian only have around 200 books of her very own?
Recently a couple of friends have told me they would love to have the organization and ease of care that comes with owning less random stuff like I do, but they don’t know how to accomplish it. I’m actually going to be helping one of them out in person, but I thought given American’s propensity to be packrats, perhaps a blog post of my techniques might be useful to other folks on the interwebs.
In order to minimize the stuff you already own, you of course will have to sort through it. Allot yourself plenty of uninterrupted time to do this. Have trash bags handy for junk and boxes for donations. I recommend doing the sort as close to trash day as possible so you can get the junk out of your house asap. Here are the questions I use when evaluating whether to keep something:
1. Is it actually junk? If it’s a piece of clothing, is it torn/stained/beyond repair? If it’s a game, is it missing pieces? If you think you can repair it, stop and think if you actually will. How long has it been waiting to be repaired? If it’s going to take you more than a week to get to it, toss it!
2. Do I need this? By need I mean need as in I’ll have to go naked/starve/will lose my sanity without this. I count clothing, bedding, and things that help me relax under this category.
3. If I don’t need it, do I have valid reasons for wanting it? or Am I only keeping this for sentimental reasons? Things that are ok to want for sentimental reasons: a picture, a letter. Things that are not ok to keep for sentimental reasons: that piece of ribbon your girlfriend tied around that bunch of flowers she gave you one time. The key behind this logic is the minimalist mantra of quality over quantity. You won’t lose the memory of her giving you the flowers if you throw out the ribbon any more than you did when the flowers died. It really is just a piece of ribbon taking up space and how often do you really look at it? In contrast, a stuffed animal she gave you that you snuggle periodically is a quality reminder of your love for each other. See the difference?
4. Are there negative emotions/memories attached to this item? Even if an item is useful and in good condition, if every time you see it you remember a negative experience or emotion, you shouldn’t keep it. It just serves to bring a negative vibe to your household. Maybe you dread opening a particular drawer because that item is in there, or a lovely painting is on display that everyone likes but you feel badly looking at it. These are simply not worth keeping. They aren’t improving your quality of life; they’re bringing it down. This goes for items that predominantly bring negative emotions/memories, not that have a minor one attached that you rarely think of when seeing it.
5. Is this a quality item? This is my final sorting step, and one that has really helped me keep items I’m prone to collect down to a reasonable number. Remember that your possessions take time to maintain. Items that aren’t as high-quality to you will prevent you from enjoying other items as much. My book collection is a good example of how quality vs. quantity helps to minimize possessions. I only keep books that I either loved or want to have around to loan to people. Yes I love books in general, but my collection is a reflection of me. I want to look at my bookshelves and know that I only kept around the ones that are truly of quality to me. Otherwise it’s just collecting for the sake of collecting isn’t about the enjoyment received from the item.
After you’ve finished sorting, bag up the junk and get it out of your house. Take the boxes of donations to the best places for them to be used. Now you are left with only things you need or that truly bring more happiness to your life. Put everything left away. Don’t be afraid to reorganize as you go. You’ll have much more free space and new ideas may present themselves.